My wife is having a flare up, she has bouts of Costochondritis that is apparently linked to the Hyper-mobility and although luckily they are few and far between, however yesterday a very bad flare up started and I feel useless!

Donna cares for me daily and does so without any complaint, well except for the odd “stop moaning”, I am a miserable git and have a moan about most things.

I always know when Donna is in a lot of pain because she actually agrees to taking Paracetamol, usually she just says she is okay. Last night she took some Paracetamol and then asked for Codeine. We tried the hot wheat bag on her chest and massage but even touching the area was too painful. Basically the cartilage that joins the ribs to the sternum has flared up and it makes breathing painful and a yawn agony.

This morning I insisted on making our morning cuppa and breakfast, I unloaded the dishwasher and put the bits away. Its caused my pain to soar but I am always in pain and my main focus is just doing what I can whilst Donna is having this flare up.

It’s at times like this that I feel bloody useless! I wish I could do more and take some of the pressure off of Donna, things like cutting the grass and washing the windows, taking the rubbish out and just the things that I should be doing. So I am so frustrated that I can do so little and I actually worry about my inability to help others more than my inability to help myself.

I have said it before, I would take all the pain and suffering in a deal if it meant my family didn’t have to have any. I hate the fact that Donna is also having to deal with pain and its so unfair that we are both like this at our age.

Anyway, I just needed to get that off my chest. It was either this or have a good scream at the world with a lot of obscenities thrown in.


By Zechariah Richardson

Over 50, disabled, husband, father and gramps who reviews products and writes blog posts about his life, beekeeping, gardening and whatever pops into his brain!

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  1. Sorry to hear your wife is in such pain. Pain sucks at any age but I think not being that old makes the life altering pain that much worse 🙁 Hang in there, I’m sure she appreciates all that you do, especially knowing the amount of pain you are in constantly!

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