Like many couples we have some sex toys, but they are all for my wife and whilst talking about sex with blog post ideas in mind, we started talking about why we only have toys for her.
For us it seems very different, we are not sure why but the thought of something like the fleshlights seems embarrassing and possibly more obscene?
The Fleshlights like the Riley Reid Textured Fleshlight pictured above are modelled on the labia of a particular xxx star.
I asked the question about sex toys for men on a forum and one reply was that the guys wife was concerned that as it was modelled after a certain woman, that he would think of her whilst it was being used & whilst he would happily use one modelled on the womans anus, he wouldn’t use one that was a replica of a male porn stars anus & yet both are just a silicone toy!
We were sent the Loving Joy Real Feel Blow Job Stroker from sextoys.co.uk to test and I have to admit to feeling a tad uncomfortable when I took it out of the box!
I don’t masturbate, to be honest I don’t have the energy now that I am unwell but I haven’t done since I was a teenager and so I was quite apprehensive. So my wife used it on me and the review will be published soon but I was put off by it and if I was to need a stroker I think I would prefer a neutral one that was just a sleeve, but we did have fun and we laughed a lot! I have to say it was also very realistic, more so than we thought it would be.
As I mentioned not all of these Fleshlights or Strokers are anatomically recreated and instead are just a sleeve like the Tenga Air Tech Strong Male Masturbator and yet we still feel slightly uncomfortable with the idea.
The Svakom Hedy Reuseable Egg Style Male Masturbator that we were also sent from SexToys.co.uk is a basic silicone sleeve in an egg and only costs £7.95 and is meant for between 5 to 10 uses!
These of course are the basic male sex toys and they can replicate the sensation of a vagina, anus or mouth depending on the model purchased.
There are silicone toys that go a step further and obviously cost more, the Fuck Me Silly 2 Mega Masturbator costs just short of £270 and the Luxury Realistic Love Doll – Kitty that is fully poseable costs £1500 and I know my wife and indeed me as well, wouldn’t be comfortable with either of these but for guys that are looking for something a bit more realistic, these are a good choice and a programme on TV a while back showed men who buy these dolls that are about 5′ 3″ tall and they dress them up and even have them there next to them whilst watching TV which I guess can help when you live a solitary life?
Of course this is written from my point of view and I am straight and we don’t engage in any anal play but I know that for many people this is something that works from them and works well. So sex toys for men also include the sort of toys that I might buy for my wife and products like the Svakom Vicky Rechargeable Prostate / G-Spot Massager.
After all we all like different things and so the sex toy industry has to cater to everyone’s needs.
I am disabled and so I always look at things from that perspective and male sex toys can be very helpful for disabled people. It could be that someone has poor hand grip or hand deformities/amputation meaning that masturbation isn’t possible and so there are things like suction cup holders for the fleshlights meaning you don’t need to use hands to get your rocks off and we are reviewing a product soon that will be ideal for that.
Thank You to SexToys.co.uk who sent a couple of products for review and the reviews will be published soon!
Why is a sex toy for women more accepted than one for a man?
Are you a couple with toys for her but cringe at the thought of a toy for him?