Like a lot of people suffer with health problems, pain, disability, I am riding a roller coaster. My mood is good one week and the next I can be feeling low, but when I’m low I am comforted by the fact that I know I will soon be climbing the tracks and end up back at the top waving my hands in the air.

However lately I’m really struggling and I’m not afraid to admit it, we all will hit low points its only natural but if you struggle to get out of a mentally low point or you are very low then ask for help. A lot of people find it difficult to say they are struggling and to ask for help, this is where you can end up in trouble without realising. its so easy to spiral downwards and not be aware how low you are, a fake smile and an “I’m okay, honestly” to friends and family and just making through everyday and the days become week, the cracks start to appear and you end up alone in a crowd.


I went through this in 1999, before I knew it I had a massive breakdown and it was all because I was in poor health and I didn’t tell anyone how I was feeling. With the help of meds, therapy and an amazing wife I was back to normal in a few months, actually no, I was better than before because through therapy I managed to put right some problems that I didn’t even realise were there!

So because of that experience I am now aware that I am in need of help, the first step was to tell my wife that I think I’m not coping and the second step for me was to phone pain management and ask to see the team therapist. It really is that easy, no-one will think you are weak, no-one will mock, in fact admitting you need help takes strength. So I’m down to see a therapist and it might be as simple as talking about the problem or maybe I need a little help with some meds.

If you are struggling please speak to someone, it could be a family member, a friend, a manager at work but your GP is a good choice. you could also contact an organisation that deals with your health condition such as

Some UK Helplines

Arthritis Care – Open 10am to 4pm weekdays – 0808 800 4050

ME association – 0844 576 5326

Fibromyalgia helpline – 0844 887 2444

Samaritans UK – 08457 90 90 90

Obviously there are many many more but I cant list them all.

Please, if you think you need help, talk to someone!

By Zechariah Richardson

Over 50, disabled, husband, father and gramps who reviews products and writes blog posts about his life, beekeeping, gardening and whatever pops into his brain!

2 thought on “Okay, I need some help!”
  1. A brave post. It is so hard to ask for help when you spiral into a low point. Sometimes it is not knowing where to go for the right help and at other times as you say it is that overwhelming feeling of weakness for not coping. I am so glad you have a supportive wife, I am so lucky to have a supportive husband. Having a good network of support around you is imperative when suffering with chronic illness. Thinking of you.

  2. I hope you get the help you need, I hit rock bottom about 3 years ago and know how you feel -we definitely need to ask for help when we need it instead of allowing the pain to completely destroy us – you’re not alone…

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