One of the things I hear most often is “She doesn’t like my beard”.
Some of you are lucky to have girlfriends or wives and even boyfriends and husbands that like beards and they like the fact you have a beard. However more often than not, our loved ones don’t approve of our beard or they think it should be kept shorter. My wife was very anti beard but now she says she would be happy if it was kept short and tidy.
So what can we do?
Well you can buckle under the pressure and shave, but would that make you happy?
I had a goatee and moustache for 15 years, my wife was used to it and it was generally kept very short at either a grade one or two clippers cut. However in the autumn of 2015 I announced that I was not going to shave until the clocks went forward the next year and it was met with extreme disapproval. Of course I discovered that the beard life was to continue and my beard is now bigger than I ever thought it would be.
My wife has now resigned herself to the fact that her husband has a big beard, she doesn’t like it but she loves me and she knows that I like the beard and so she, well let’s say she tolerates it!
Of course many guys have been given demands when it comes to the beard, this presents a very difficult situation and the memes that go around say if she asks you to choose between her or him and the beard, get rid.
This is an easy decision if you are just dating, if the relationship is new but if you are in a committed relationship or deeply in love and believe that this person is the one, then it’s not an option and it would be foolish to lose someone you love over facial hair.
So really the only thing that can be done is to talk it through. There is no use just saying “I like it, it’s staying and tough”, relationships don’t and shouldn’t work like that. Relationships are about compromise and so neither person has the right to make any demands. So really all that can be done is to explain to your loved that you like having a beard, it makes you happy and you like how you look and maybe a compromise would be to keep it at a certain length or hopefully like my wife, they then understand that you are happy with a beard and so they accept it.
This of course goes for anything when in a serious relationship, neither party should make unfair demands and nothing is gained by being stubborn or resorting to raising your voice and arguing. Our rule is that everything can and will be talked about and so far 27 years later we are still very happy and don’t argue.
So if you have been asked to get rid of your beard, start negotiating!